Perfectionism

Perfectionism

Are you the type of person who always has to have things just right? Do you expect the people around you to meet your own high expectations? Maybe you think you’re just a perfectionist, but having high standards isn’t always a good thing.
What are some symptoms of perfectionism anyway? Well, maybe you take on every task that’s handed to you. You might find it hard to say no, for fear of disappointing those around you.
Maybe you’re exceptionally well organised and finish your tasks early. Or maybe you’re one of those people who’s constantly procrastinating because you don’t want to do anything unless it’s the absolute best you can do.
Essentially, perfectionism is all about having unrealistic expectations. If you haven’t done things as well as you would have liked to, you’ll get upset, even if everyone else is amazed.
It’s hard to believe because perfectionists seem so together, but a lot actually suffer from a lack of self-confidence. They think that they have to be just right in order to keep their world under control.
So, if you are a perfectionist, what can you do to break your habits? It’s as simple, and as difficult, as changing your patterns of thinking.
See, it’s likely that you tend to think negatively. For example, “I rushed this work project, so now people are going to think I’m lazy”, or “I was so tired, I didn’t do the housework. People are going to think I can’t look after my family.”
It’s these thought patterns that need to be changed. If you make yourself aware of what you’re thinking before you act on it, you can change what the outcome is.
Instead of thinking, “I can’t look after my family” because you were too tired to clean the house, tell yourself that it’s okay to leave the housework for one more day because it was a long day at work.
Enlist the support of your family and loved ones. Tell them that you’re trying to break some old habits and you really need their reassurance. This will help you because you’ll have someone telling you when you’re about to start being pedantic.
Set goals that are realistic and that can be easily achieved. Don’t try to aim for the best, just aim for what will make you happy. You don’t need more than that.
More importantly, give yourself credit for all the things you’ve achieved in your life. Praise yourself. After a while, you’ll stop thinking negatively and will start to give yourself the praise that you’re due.
Once you’re happy within yourself, others will notice that too.
It can be a long road to breaking the perfectionist cycle but it’s a journey well worth taking. At the end of it you’ll feel happier and more relaxed.
And instead of trying to get a project just right, you’ll know when to let it go so that you can enjoy more time doing the things you love to do!