Have you ever wondered why one person will find a particular incident very stressful and yet another person will not see it as a problem? Or why some people find activities like scuba diving or parachuting exhilarating and others find them terrifying? It all depends on the way our minds work.
Everybodys mind functions differently so our reactions to lifes experiences also differ. But what if there was a way that we could change the way we react to things?
Neurolinguistic programming or NLP is a technique that we can use to alter the way we react. By helping a person understand how their mind works, NLP can be used to increase motivation and remove negative or limiting beliefs.
Lindy has come along to see NLP practitioner Jon Brenton. At the moment she is experiencing stress and frustration because she believes she cant sell her car in order to get enough money to renovate her house, in order to sell it. Is her negative belief structure actually stopping her from manifesting what she wants?
Jon asks her to place her problem outside herself, in a chair across the room. He uses toy props as metaphors to represent Lindys situation; a toy car for her car, a picture for her house, a wad of toy cash for her money dilemma. Asked how she feels, Lindy says angry and frustrated.
Two stuffed teddies are sitting behind Lindy on a couch. Jon uses these to represent parental figures. He asks Lindy if there was ever a time in her childhood when either she, or her mum or dad, fretted over a house or money. Interestingly, there were plenty of times they fretted over houses, in particular.
Could Lindy be projecting these old belief patterns over her current circumstances? Lindy also admits that one of her problems is feeling out of control of the situation. Shes never sold a car before!
Jons next technique is to place Lindys out-of-control feeling on a point on her hand. As he presses the point, her negative feelings well up. To make a contrast to this, Jon asks Lindy to bring up the positive feelings she experiences when she achieves or gets what she wants. He hands her a wad of toy money and places the good feeling on a different point on her hand.
He presses down on the two points at once and asks her to experience the two feelings. Then he releases the negative feeling, leaving her with only the positive. He reminds her that she wont get into trouble by receiving what she wants. She is now starting to think its possible that she can actually sell her car.
Lindy takes her new-found positiveness back with her to her original spot. Jon places a rock in front of her, for her to focus on as she rethinks her dilemma. Interestingly, she is not experiencing any negative self-talk. In fact, shes starting to feel quite excited by the possibilities.
Jon makes sure the way is clear by asking Lindy to imagine herself in the future, selling her car and house. Lindy feels no mental blocks as the possibilities open up before her.
NLP targets specific problems, changing the way we look at things and reframing our beliefs.
Jon has many different techniques up his sleeve to suit the individual. Hitting or hugging a teddy bear may not be for the brute and burly amongst us!
Just as a car needs servicing to perform at its best, so does our brain. Just because our brain is working doesnt mean it is working at its optimal level.
In short, NLP can help you gain control of your life and realise your full potential.